How do you find true belonging? According to Brene Brown, true belonging is the flip side of saying “No.”
What happens when we say NO?
We draw a line in the sand.
We are no longer playing “nice.”
We are no longer trying to fit in so people will accept us.
And we risk being rejected.
In the age of increased polarization, a desire to belong is almost irresistible.
We all want to find true belonging.
But, according to BreneBrown, true belonging,
… starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.
So, we have drawn the line. We have chosen to belong to no one.
Getting empathy from someone who will not judge you.
A simple 10-minute practice that undercuts the root of anxiety is surprisingly counterintuitive
After struggling with anxiety for about 30 years, I finally found something that works. As of today, I have not been anxious for over two years, which is surprising, given the circumstances I have been through.
My first anxiety attack came at 21 when I was a senior in college. It came totally out of the blue — it must have been triggered by a train of thought that I totally didn’t notice. And it felt so bad, I had to excuse myself and go out to breathe it away.
Since then I would get it every once in a while — always hitting out of the blue. Trying to “figure it out” never helped. In fact, it made it worse. I couldn’t trace it down to any external cause.
Of course, I did a bunch of things to get rid of it — talked to therapists, worked out, memorized Bible verses, and read tons of books on self-help, philosophy, and religion. It helped… sort of…until the next time.